I recently publicized that I had been intimate with other females (which I am a female) for six years of my childhood through teen years (ages 8 through 16). Earlier on I had my story semi-publicized and regularly told people if something came up about the subject.
I didn’t really know what I was doing when involved with girls, but I was exposed early on to pornography in my home. There were hopes that I’d be well protected from it, as the little girl in the family, but I was not. There was a spirit loose in my household. Though I didn’t view any of the pornography until I was a little older, I was intrigued by a new Bible passage taught to me in 3rd grade about Lot protecting two angels who were guests in his household. Men came knocking on the door to meet them so they could have sex with them. I thought it was funny. I didn’t understand it fully (or the fact that these people were so into their lusts that they were completely wiped out by God, other than Lot’s family).
My dad was not very involved in my life, though he was still married to my mom and living in our house. He was non-existent to me and became “a man” who was around but didn’t ever show me love at all. I craved his attention but every time I tried to get it, he’d ignore me. He’d rather watch the T.V. instead. My mom gave me a lot of attention and love so I figured since guys constantly rejected me, maybe girls would be different.
I had been a loner in school, highly mocked as it was, but two boys on my bus to school who were a couple grades ahead of me continually called me “dyke” and insisted that I had to be a lesbian. I didn’t even know what the words meant. I knew so many people with “Dyke” in their last names since I attended a Dutch Reformed school. I thought it was something to do with that. In asking my mom what one was, she briefly explained the term and I started to believe I was what the boys said I was: a lesbian. I was so bullied by these two that I even had to have a meeting with them at school with a counselor, but it didn’t do anything, and they continued on.
A girl I knew asked to hang out with me in 3rd grade. I started to go over her house a few times and she would touch me (she was exposed to pornography too, but knew about it) and I thought it was strange but not bad feeling, so I continued on. One night she slept over my house and we shared a bed together. While my mom read from the Bible to us, the girl was touching me under the sheets and my mom caught us and told me I was doing wrong (in the most gentle way ever, totally out of love). I never hung out with the girl again, and even made fun of her to take the guilt off of myself (probably the only girl I ever made fun of, and I regret doing it, since I knew how it felt). This didn’t stop me from exploring other girls in the future. I thought experimenting was “okay” probably because of what I heard said on Television.
Keep in mind, I was highly attracted to guys and not females. I was envious of girls and wanted to be like them, but guys held my interest until they rejected me and I would try to fill my void with something not of God, but of wanting to be loved by the opposite sex, and then the same sex once the opposite sex ignored me. I made “love” my god rather than God who IS Love to be my God. I was into the idea of purity with guys but thought nothing wrong of being intimate with girls.
Once I met my husband Rob in high school at the age of 16, I was totally into him alone. The problem was that I still had a hard time with rejection. God had promised me (that’s a whole story in itself) that I would one day marry Rob (and He certainly proved it to us now that we’ve been married nearly 8 years together, been a couple for 11.5 years). Because I grew impatient with God, I did what a lot of people in the Bible tended to do when they couldn’t wait any longer, I gave into sin. Rob had been dating another girl for about seven months and I had a friend who was dealing with rejection from a guy too. We randomly decided to comfort each other through a “one night stand” and then would go on the following days as friends.
As soon as the deed was done, I felt very unclean in my soul. I felt guilt and pain. I felt completely pushed aside by God. It was a very dark and dismal feeling. I am sure a lot of people who commit this sin don’t feel this way, but I had fear of God’s wrath and had truly never doubted His existence. It was strong and I saw too many of His miracles in my life. Through this sin, I was tormented inside and cried out to Jesus. He forgave me, but I was having a hard time forgiving myself. I needed to tell someone who could encourage me. I read through so many scriptures on homosexuality (will share some in a bit). I strongly have always believed God’s Word to be truth, not subjective or objective, but the living breathing Word of God. Therefore I decided to trust in Him over society and the excuses often given that would probably have desensitized me and caused me to continue in the ways I had adjusted to for 8 years regarding “my sexuality”.
I told Rob about what I did. Instead of looking down on me, instead of making fun of me, instead of being grossed out by me he showed me love. He said it was good that I saw I did wrong and he encouraged me to continue to seek out the Lord for guidance, but that Jesus died for me and loved me enough to do that for me so that I could be renewed and transformed. He told me the truth in love. He made me cry. It was the first time he reached out to help me, because I was constantly helping him with things he was going through. This caused him to cry because he knew how I felt about him but I constantly went out of my way to be there for him and help him and make him happy even if it meant I would end up miserable in the end. He told me to listen to a song off of Relient K’s first album called “Softer to Me“ (this was the year 2000 that we had this conversation, so it was a brand new band at that point). I listened to it over and over again while crying and eventually sang along with it. I felt a huge weight lifted off me. The guilt was gone! The feelings I had for girls was taken from me, as I asked God to take it from me. My struggle was no longer a struggle at all.
I have heard it said that many people believe they are “born” a homosexual or are always “attracted” to the same sex. We are all born into a sinful world. Because sin exists and spiritual warfare is everywhere, it is no wonder why children grow up in such confusion of believing they are homosexual. There is no proof or genetics that state that one is born a homosexual. If we go through their life and find the root of their life, there is probably a story where they were teased, rejected, had kindness from the same sex alone, society made it sound interesting to them, lost a loved one and fill the void, lack attention from a parent, had struggled with a divorce, had porn exposure, had been sexually abused, etc. Other people just say they have never been attracted to the opposite sex, and as hard as they tried to they decided that they were going to go for the same sex. I’ve heard many possibilities.
In my past 12 years of learning about the subject because of what I went through, and in digging the scriptures and asking God to reveal His truths to me, I have learned the following things that are explained below. This is already a long post, but if you are interested in reading further, please do. It is going to be lengthy.
God created Adam. God said it was BAD that he was alone, so He gave Adam a partner who was to be his wife. Now things were GOOD. God walked and talked with the two of them and the couple had no shame with one another because God married them (just as today we marry in the presence of God, but they SAW Him every day. It was their way of life as they knew it). God told them to “Be fruitful and multiply” (Gen 1:28). That’s a key right there. We know that the way our bodies function and connect to one another, an outcome of a man and woman being together is that they can fill the earth with their children. This is a command by God. He didn’t say “if you want to or not.” (like abortion and contraception gives an option of). He made this a beautiful thing between a husband and wife to enjoy. There is no “fruit” or any “multiplying” in two men being sexual together or two women being sexual together. Their line will instead be cut-off forever which is not pleasing to God. He wants us to marry and have children. Yes, homosexuals can adopt, but they can’t create anything out of their “love” for one another. Their bodies just don’t work that way.
When Adam and Eve were easily deceived by Satan, they did such a grave thing that God took them out of the perfect life they knew and disciplined them with a hard life filled with hard work, labor pains, and many other things. He did this out of love to them because they knew better but deliberately disobeyed. God is out to protect the people He cares for and loves. He tells us (through His Word) what is best for us. If we choose to disregard Him, our sin will forever keep us separate from Him. Though He’ll always love us, we’ll never be able to have that close bonded relationship with Him when we tell Him we know what to do better than He does. . .He created YOU. He isn’t going to change and give into you. God’s word says He’s the same FOREVER (Hebrews 13:8).
I’ve been reading Leviticus lately. I know many people don’t like this book but I’ve been really enjoying it. I want to explain to you something in Leviticus 15 that I find very interesting. First off, this whole chapter is about people’s bodily functions making them unclean (men’s semen and women’s menstruation). If a man had semen on him, he was unclean. If someone touched him when he had semen on him or his clothes, they were unclean. If someone even sat on his bed that had semen somewhere on it, they were considered unclean. Simple enough to understand. These people had to wash often because of it. I would gather to say that Jewish men were not going to masturbate because they were then unclean for 7 days, would have to wash after every single time, and if they got any on someone else, that person also was unclean for a week. If they were having sex with their wife though, they’d only be unclean until the end of the night. Oh the list goes on and on for all the things they had to do.
In Leviticus 18:22 we read “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination. And you shall not lie with any animal and so make yourself unclean with it, neither shall any woman give herself to an animal to lie with it: it is perversion.” In case you’re wondering what an abomination is, it means you are to be cut off from God forever without atonement for your sin. Then we see that in Leviticus 20:13, this is repeated and then some, “If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.” and verse 23 says, “And you shall not walk in the customs of the nation that I am driving out before you, for they did all these things, and therefore I detested them.” When Jesus came to fulfill the law and not to abolish it (Matthew 5:17), He was saying that He would wash you from your sin of lying together with the same sex if you were willing to change your ways and follow Him. He didn’t say that this verse was obsolete at all, but that there is a way to be cleansed and that is through Him. He would make those who are unclean to be clean. He became the sacrifice for you so that you don’t have to be put to death and can receive eternal life, but you cannot continue in your sin. These verses were of God, not of man. Instead of being cut off from God, you are to live holy and set-apart by and for Him! You are not to live as the world lives, but as God has declared best for you.
Sodom and Gommorah was already mentioned from my childhood (story about Lot). Oh, of course I’ve read it now dozens of times and finally understand it and don’t giggle at it, but feel very sad about it now. Sodom and Gomorrah were filled with people with great lustful desire for one another. After a while, it seemed they grew bored and wanted to find new people to be sexual with, so much so that they wanted to rape strangers they never even saw (the two angels at Lot’s house). Lot tried to protect them and even offered his virgin daughters to them because he didn’t want them to do a “detestable thing” by having sex with men. That’s pretty powerful to call them out like and put his own daughters into such hands to be raped (but they didn’t get them. Later on these virgin daughters made their own father get drunk on wine and were each impregnated by him. Guess the spirit of Sodom and Gomorrah got to them anyway. Believe me, what happened was not applauded by God either – and their offspring were idol worshipers and child sacrificers – they were also cut off from God). Regardless, the entire place was destroyed because God was so angry at the immorality there and the lack of obedience to Him. He gave them so many chances but they continually ignored Him.
I’ve actually had a lesbian give me a speech of how David and Jonathan from the Bible are an example for why homosexuality is supposedly okay according to the Bible from what people told them. In 1 Samuel 18:3 and 20:17, they are said to have loved one another as they loved their own soul. Here’s the thing, if you love your soul you want to protect it from harm and care for it, right? You want it to be pure and hold it in the highest regard, right? David loved women. Both of these men were married with children. David had hundreds of wives and lusted over them, unfortunately (a weakness of his). Jonathan was like a brother to him. Remember that David was brought into his household when he was younger, and they became friends and warriors together. King Saul was like an adopted father to David. David and Jonathan were there to hear each other out. They were there to help one another in need. In 1 Samuel 18:1, it had said that there was a conversation that Jonathan heard between David and Saul (when David and Jonathan were still young) which really made him feel knit to his soul. This was directly after David took down the fearful giant Philistine named Goliath with a small rock. Jonathan heard David speak highly about “the battle” being “the Lord’s” rather than “spear or sword” being a part of the battle. David spoke with such wisdom and strength and fear and love for the Lord. This amazed Jonathan.
People assume that because they were able to connect so well with one another and love on a level higher than their own relationship with women, that it was sexual because I guess they forget that people can have really amazing friendships without thinking they have feelings for one another. Just because you care so much for someone doesn’t mean you have feelings for them and are therefore IN love with them. You can love someone of the same sex without having sexual feelings for them or attraction towards them. You can love your child without having sexual feelings for them. You can love a parent without having sexual feelings for them. You can love a sibling without having sexual feelings for them. People are so driven by their perversions today that they assume that anyone who is extremely close must care for them in a deeper way involving sexuality. Feelings between a husband and wife are extreme, but feelings of two friends connecting on a spiritual level is also extreme. I have a handful of friends that I feel this way about. I have no sexual feelings whatsoever for any of them, but I feel deeply rooted to them because of the Spirit of God that we share together. I feel such love towards them but nothing that would cause me to want to be in a physical relationship or think of being a girlfriend to them. There is no lust or anything in those relationships, just a purely deep spiritual connection! I can tell them anything and know that they will encourage me and help me without being cruel to me, and that they will also be willing to hear me out and encourage them in the Lord too. Later on, David was being hunted by Jonathan’s father King Saul. Jonathan couldn’t stand what was happening to his friend. He wanted to protect him and keep him from harm. Also keep in mind that in 2 Samuel where David had proclaimed that his love for Jonathan surpassed that of his love for women, Jonathan had just been brutally killed. David was weeping and was in deep sorrow. He also called Jonathan his brother in the same passage! My dearest friends are my sisters in Christ.
In 1 Samuel 18, Jonathan humbles himself before David. As the son of a king (Saul), Jonathan would have probably been next in line for king. He knew David was anointed by God. Therefore he gave him all that belonged to him because he cared for him as if he were his brother and the rightful man for the throne. He didn’t strip himself so that David could get aroused or be intimate with him. He even gave David his armor and weapons which were important to him, which helped David be successful in battle. If you have friends that you feel so close to that you’d give anything to them including the clothes on your body if it means keeping them warm instead of them freezing somewhere, wouldn’t you do that? That’s what Jonathan was doing here. I have heard people who make sure they put lots of time aside to spend time with their dearly loved friends and they relate better to the same sex than opposite sex, but don’t love their friends the way they do their spouse. This is how it was for David and Jonathan. There was nothing sexual about it.
Recently I heard a “christian” state that Acts 8:26-40 was researched and that the man who became a Christian was a homosexual. I guess they didn’t double check the Bible to realize that it was about a Eunuch from Ethiopia and that the word in greek is eunouchos, which is how it appears in the original translation. That means he had served in a place where men had their testes removed. Although I am unsure if this took away their sexual affections and lusts, I do know that it was done so that they would not get women pregnant, and it was a way to make them lower than the average man. They were lacking power and looked down upon by society as just a slave or servant. Yet this man in the Bible was an attendant of Queen Candace of Ethiopia. Therefore since he was in her quarters regularly, he had become a eunuch. This man was so interested in God and was trying to learn about God. He was so interested in knowing more that Philip in the Bible baptized him. This man was not a homosexual. It has nothing to do with it homosexuality. Even so, When Jesus transformed lives, again he transformed them, and no one was as they once were. The lepers weren’t lepers, the lame could walk, the blind could see, the deaf could hear, the tax collector gave to the poor and paid back even more than what he took, the prostitute ceased her job, the diseased were cleansed, etc.
On the issue of LOVE. Everyone has a different definition of love. People think that if people of the same sex love one another, it is pure and lovely. What they don’t want to admit (and what bothers me about Christians who accept homosexuality) is that throughout the Bible we see loads of examples and scriptures about marriage between men and women but never anything between two men or two women. No blessings are given to them, but many blessings are given to married couples of the opposite sex, including the children they bear. 1 John 4:8 tells us that God IS love. He loves us and created love and gave us the ability to love. If we have sex before marriage at all, this is not love, and there are many scriptures against sexual immorality and they are all stated as sinful against God. Since marriage is between a man and a woman according to God, homosexuality is not love, but disobedience to God. Now in 1 John 4 it also tells us that if we do not love people around us, we do not know God. As stated before, God loves everyone, but He does not approve of all the things that they do. He set the standard for life and gave us the choice to obey Him or not. If a child disobeys their parents, the parents get sad and upset but they still love their child. This is how God loves us. People who say that God “hates fags” are disobeying God as well. They have disregarded loving other people. We are to show love to the homosexual, but we are to not embrace their sin or tell them it is okay for them to do it. We are to guide them to Christ and in hopes that they will accept Him and allow Christ to transform their lives and teach them. We are to show love as Jesus showed love to others. Jesus didn’t “hang out” with sinners as so many Christians say as an excuse for why they continue in whatever sin they are involved with. He saw their hearts were hungry for love and longing to understand Jesus. Therefore He reached out to them and would tell them many times to “go and sin no more”. He didn’t tell them, “Go ahead and sin, because I love you enough where you can believe in me and live as you already do.” He told them to change and be like Him, to pick up their cross and follow Him daily and reject ourselves and our sinful nature. “And whoever does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me.” -Matthew 10:38. We are to give ourselves completely over to Him according to Matthew 26:24, Mark 8:34, and Luke 9:23 “And he said to all, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me’”. That means that we need to stop wanting to live in our OWN way and to live in sin and to live our lives completely for Christ. We need to act like Him and talk like Him. This is a difficult task, but we need to do it. Likewise, we can’t show hatred towards anyone if we claim to have Jesus in our lives. “If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.” -1 John 4:20-21
After Jesus ascended to Heaven and told the disciples and hundreds of people there to listen to Him before he left us and sent the Holy Spirit to live within us and help us, Many went to lands to preach of Jesus and how they saw and knew Him to defeat death. Greece and Rome were some of the places reached and preached. These were places that had male and female temple prostitutes. There were orgies and an acceptance of sexuality in all forms. There were men who would buy young boys and girls to be their sex slaves. Men and women were believing they were also in love with each other regardless of sex and it was completely okay according to their society. Yet the disciples took stances against these things and said they were defiling themselves and doing wrong. If you believe God’s Word as truth, you need to know that God never accepted these practices. There is NO WHERE in the Bible where homosexuality is okay or that love between the same sex is accepted by God. NO WHERE! There are scriptures about loving your wife, loving your husband, and how their body is one flesh, but there is only scripture upon scripture proclaiming that men being intimate with each other was wrong and women being intimate with each other is wrong. yet regardless of these scriptures, I know many proclaiming Christians who see that love is okay whether for the same sex or not. If you are one of these people, you have been deceived by the world and need to seek His scriptures. He will reveal His truth to you. I often hear Christians say, “but I know this guy. . .” or “I know this girl…:” while telling me some story about how these people “feel love” towards the same sex or that they are such “good” and “nice” people. Yet the Word of God constantly states that we are to do all things for the glory of Him and that he is jealous for us because He made us and loves us and deserves our attention and lives to be committed over to Him. While people “believe” they love the same sex, they need to see that their heart is easy to deceive. “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? ‘I the Lord search the heart and test the mind, to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his deeds.’” -Jeremiah 17:9-10 It continues in verse 13 stating “all who forsake you shall be put to shame; those who turn away from you shall be written in the earth, for they have forsaken the Lord, the fountain of living water.” The response we should have for our sinfulness (including homosexuality) is stated right in the next verse (14). “Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved, for you are my praise.” Even earlier on in this chapter we see that God is angry at how the people have turned from Him and became as the people around them (as the world acted and thought). Jeremiah had the Spirit of God within Him. It says in verses5-8 “Thus says the Lord: ‘Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord. He is like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land. Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.”” We again see that God is not happy with our disobedience to Him. He will discipline those who will not persevere to listen and speak for truth. He will bless those who are willing to allow their hearts to be penetrated by His Spirit and live for Him.
Ultimately we are to make our purpose in life to serve Him. Because homosexuals usually don’t want to serve God, they continue in their sin. I have heard that there are some who do still struggle in their temptations but decide to remain single and serve God while preaching that homosexuality is wrong and not giving into the sins of their past. These are men and women who are willing to accept that they did wrong and are willing to fight temptation and serve God and seek Him out and change. I’ve heard of people who were Christians in the media who were singers who couldn’t fight the temptations of their struggle and were still holding on to their sins and wanting to embrace them instead that they gave up following God and believed in Him but not His word (which is basically like spitting on God and saying, “forget you, I’ll do it the way I want to. It is too difficult to live for you. I thought it would be easier.” I believe that some people will certainly have a hard time living so many years in a sin that the struggle of it will remain, but even Jesus was tempted but did not fall into sin. He used the scriptures to fight the temptation. “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13
One of the problems with homosexuality is that people want to be able to continue living as they do while serving God, when really, that is serving two masters and having a little god on the side of God. It is deliberate disobedience to Him, and God does not want us to have to live life like that. So I went over Leviticus as part of God’s law. This passage explains how the law is important and that fighting sin is also important. We know that homosexuality is wrong according to what He said in Leviticus. I’m getting to more verses specifically on such a sin soon. “So the law is holy, and the commandment is holy and righteous and good. Did that which is good, then, bring death to me? By no means! It was sin, producing death in me through what is good, in order that sin might be shown to be sin, and through the commandment might become sinful beyond measure. For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am of the flesh, sold under sin. For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand. For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members. Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.” -Romans 7:12-25
We find freedom from sin through Jesus! He loves us and died for us so that we won’t need to be under bondage of sin! We can be free when we place our sin at His feet, no matter what it is! We need to realize that once we do that, we need to work at continuing to live in Him and to not give into our sin again.
Here’s where I can express my joy of what God has done for me, so that I can help any who were also involved in homosexuality, or Christians who may not understand why it is wrong, or unbelievers who want to understand the Bible. People who have deep hatred are mistreating others who practice homosexuality are in need of the cleansing of Christ just as much as everyone, for we all have done wrong. “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” -1 Corinthians 6:9-11
We see here that because sin does lead to death, homosexuality, being one of those things does indeed lead to death as well. It states that regardless, if we have changed (hence the word “were” not “are” explaining how we were those things), Christ has sanctified us and made us Holy to be changed, transformed, renewed as new so that we may inherited His kingdom!
As we read on in chapter 6, verses 13b-20, there is further explanation of why we need to change from homosexuality, which is sexual immorality. “The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh.’ But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
In 1 Timothy 1:8-19 says “Now we know that the law is good, if one uses it lawfully, understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted. I thank him who has given me strength, Christ Jesus our Lord, because he judged me faithful, appointing me to his service, though formerly I was a blasphemer, persecutor, and insolent opponent. But I received mercy because I had acted ignorantly in unbelief, and the grace of our Lord overflowed for me with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus. The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost. But I received mercy for this reason, that in me, as the foremost, Jesus Christ might display his perfect patience as an example to those who were to believe in him for eternal life. To the King of the ages, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory forever and ever. Amen. This charge I entrust to you, Timothy, my child, in accordance with the prophecies previously made about you, that by them you may wage the good warfare, holding faith and a good conscience. By rejecting this, some have made shipwreck of their faith”
Is homosexuality glorifying to God? According to the scriptures, not at all. Therefore we are not doing the will of the Father if we are having sex before marriage or with the same sex or through adultery. Christians who ignore all these passages have listened to society and their own “nice ideas” of everyone being “happy” and making a “happiness god” out of homosexuality (hence why the word “gay” has become twisted to serve as an explanation of a homosexual person). If you say that you don’t think homosexuality is wrong and claim to serve God, you are one who has made your faith shipwrecked. You have rejected the truth that is presented to you. We definitely need to love these people who sin, but if they come to Christ and continue to accept this as a justified sin, they have basically ripped out the pages of the Bible they don’t like and don’t want to accept, and decided to live and believe their own version of God instead of the unchangeable version of God. They have given into deception. Anyone who says they are a Christian or a follower and believer of Christ and preaches that homosexuality is right in the eyes of God, is a false teacher and should not be listened to. They will have the blood on their hands for preaching a completely different gospel and tainting the minds of people around them. You are not to accept that.
Jesus said Himself in Mark 7:20-23, “And he said, ‘What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.’” Since homosexuality is a form of sexual immorality and since homosexuality is also involving sensuality, this is something to certainly take into consideration as something that makes one impure.
In this paragraph I will share the chapter and passages I first read when I went to God about my homosexual sins that really penetrated and caused me to surrender my sin to God. I have heard many people say that Paul in the Bible “created” the word “homosexuality”, but this passage doesn’t even use the verses. Many people also have stated that God only talks about men being with other men, but not women, but this verse mentions women. This whole passage seemed to really paint a picture of what was happening to me and people around me.
“For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” -Romans 1:21-32
The beginning of this section explains in Romans 1:18-20 “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. ” While I read this, I had earlier on found out that many homosexual men were dying so young, as if God was trying to show them that it was unnatural. Though I am unsure if women have such things, I haven’t met a woman yet who wasn’t homosexual because of abuse or rejection because of their looks. They all have seemed empty in some way and needing fulfillment (like I had needed). I always longed to have children, and for me, that was a natural thing and seemed to be something that made me be without excuse. Most lesbian women I had known had already had children, even, but either had a dead husband or a husband who left them for someone else. One woman I know even was told by her mother at a young age that she was a lesbian, to protect her from the abuse of her father who had abused her sisters, so that he wouldn’t want to touch her, so eventually after she had children she said she had always been a lesbian, just as her mother told her. I always saw the hand of God on my life and He performed miracles and showed Himself to be real. I notice today that people hate Christians who are against homosexuality because they see people who are filled with hatred and saying things against them that is not out of love at all. I also have noticed that people who are homosexual hate God because they have heard that they can’t marry in a church and therefore God is evil because they want to continue in their sins and therefore think God is evil if he can’t accept what they do. The problem is that the approach of God has evolved in the past 70 years in itself. In our country there was Biblical truth taught in schools as well as prayer in schools. People knew that homosexuality was wrong and there was a higher fear of God. They knew that they had to have an attitude of reverence and that if they were in sin, they were doing wrong but often times they didn’t want to share that they did wrong because people around them would judge them without love and try to encourage them and help them. Instead they would sometimes put them in mental institutions. No matter what, sin will find you out in the end. Whether or not you want to ignore God or talk against His love and discipline, and whether or not you want to reject Christ’s pouring out of love through His sacrifice for your sins so that you can be renewed, your actions of denying Him and living for yourself in your sin will find you out. If you want to live in eternity with Him, what choices you make today will matter. This short life does matter. If you want to give into sin, He already gave you the way out through believing and obeying Him on this earth and you said, “no.” Hosea 4:7-8, 9b-10 says, “The more they increased, the more they sinned against me; I will change their glory into shame. They feed on the sin of my people; they are greedy for their iniquity. I will punish them for their ways and repay them for their deeds. They shall eat, but not be satisfied; they shall play the whore, but not multiply, because they have forsaken the Lord to cherish whoredom, wine, and new wine, which take away the understanding.”
Through the gift of The Holy Spirit given to those who accept Jesus as God, He WILL reveal our sin and His truth to us. We need to be willing to read, study, and learn what God says through His Word. If we are listening more to the people around us than to God Himself, we will be stagnant and unchanged. We can constantly change and grow, the more we study Him.
“And when he (the holy Spirit) comes, he will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment: concerning sin, because they do not believe in me; concerning righteousness, because I go to the Father, and you will see me no longer; concerning judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged.” -John 16:8-10
In conclusion, love other people. If you see someone doing any wrong, would you rather help them so that they can do right, or let them do something that is going to harm them, those around them, and lead to ultimate destruction for eternity? In trying to lovingly and gently tell them that they are in sin, as my husband did to me when I confessed my wrong, you are doing right in the Lord! You are showing great love to other people! In calling them names, in making them feel as if God hates them specifically, rather than what they are doing, you are going to make them hate you, hate God, and hate those who proclaim to know Him. Of course their approach to their own sin is going to be an issue, but you need to pray for them, pray they’ll be convicted of their sin. You also need to pray for how you can help be a guide to God’s word to them, pray for God to soften their hearts and turn from their lusts and sinfulness. Also pray that you yourself will be freed from whatever sins take a hold of your life so that you may be free and blameless. Because I was freed from my sin of homosexuality, the plank in my eye was removed and I try to help others realize they are sinning as I did, because I have the ability to remove their specks, as Christ told us to in how to properly judge others. I have a harder time dealing with those who claim to be of God but see no wrong in homosexuality than those who are homosexuals trying to understand God;s word. Let us not harden our hearts to the truth and be so easily deceived. Show love and be patient with others. You can’t expect people to understand immediately about the truth, though it can happen, indeed. You can show love to others through your gentleness. Do not be afraid to proclaim God’s truth boldly in love! While there might end up being persecution, it is more important to help others from stumbling by reaching out to them, than saying nothing and watching them stumble. That is unloving. There is a righteous and loving way to judge someone and a wrong and unloving way to judge someone. Every day we make right and wrong judgements. Be cautious of which you are doing.
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” -Ephesians 4:1-3
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Step 2: Keep His commandments. This is important. This is not just the Ten known Commandments, but the many throughout His word. He tells us we are to do many things. The law of God is not always easy to abide by, but it is good for us and our lives. In obedience to Him, we can live in peace. A Thousand generations is quite a lot. Therefore, in being a part of His people when we receive Christ into our lives, we need to remember that the commandments are still important. Jesus often quoted from the Old Testament books and said that He did not abolish the law, but fulfilled it but that we still need to live by it. As the picture says with this post, we are to love God with everything in us. If we do not live out the love we have for Him, we are not loving Him at all!
